The death of loved one can be a jarring experience and it is natural to be at a loss as to what to do in such situations. However, since death is something that will eventually visit anyone, it is important to be informed of the procedures and things to do in such a situation. Below is a basic rundown of things to consider:
- The immediate decisions – whilst you should have time to calm down, there are certain aspects that will undoubtedly require your immediate attention. This is most often with regards to organ donation or bequeathal instructions. If your loved one had previously mentioned his or her wishes with regards to these procedures, then you are legally bound to follow them. If no such mention was made, the decision to donate organs or to bequeath the body to a medical school rests in the hands of the closest family members. Regardless of which decision you come to, know that these decisions are time-sensitive, so make sure to quickly make up your mind and call the related services.
- Take a deep breath and calm down – whether you witness the death or are informed of it, you will naturally be shocked to learn that your beloved has passed away. The very first thing you should be doing is not thinking of the funeral services or any other event you should be planning: it should be giving time to yourself. A death is a reason for sadness, and a sudden death is also a shocking event, and you should have time to process what happened. You can take time to understand and grieve the loss, there is nothing wrong with this.
- Have someone help you – the most important thing, that even a funeral undertaker will advise you of, is to have someone help you plan the funerary procedures. You will understandably be unable to do everything alone, and there should be no reason why you should do it all alone. Have your family members – or even friends and acquaintances – help you through the process. When it comes to visiting the funeral parlour, it is helpful to have a companion who was not extremely close the dead relative be in charge of financial expenses and the like (they can help with impartial decisions).
- Consider the needs of the deceased – the other point you should consider before beginning the funeral procedures are any potential wishes the deceased left in their will (or told you about at some point in their life). Usually, you will need to discuss this with other related family members, so make sure to hold a group discussion as soon as possible to consider your options and budget.